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Penciling in an Addition to our Little Family – Falling into a Rather Curious Adventure

Everyone is Pregnant

Today at church there were babies everywhere. Newborns, toddlers, and those yet-to-be-conceived. But we haven’t told anyone yet. And my husband was hopping from one foot to the other in anticipation.

But I just couldn’t do it!

I don’t want to be forced into those baby conversations quite yet. Especially with the second time around moms who are now pregnant and expecting at about the same time as me.

UGH – no advice from them, please!

Not that I don’t want advice. I need all I can get! But I want it to be RELEVANT. Not what they hated and what I need to look forward to dreading. Because that’s all the talk seems to be about!

Therefore, I haven’t said anything to anyone. Baby is a secret, and I kind of like it that way! Only a select few know, even though that small group is – like my husband – anticipating when I’ll give them the go ahead!

But that is yet to be determined!

Are You Allowed to Be Scared?

I realize that many women – whether they are moms already, or only at the pregnancy stage – mask their true feelings. It’s almost as if a secret rule book has been passed around, the contents of which contain what is and what’s not appropriate to say. This book also tells women how they should react to certain situations.

Take the fact that I’m scared out of my mind about being pregnant. No one could understand my initial reaction to the news.

“But aren’t you thrilled?” one nurse asked me when she saw the shocked look on my face after being given the news.

“You should be excited,” another said with a cursory look, visibly huffing at the fact that I wasn’t jumping up and down in glee.

The simply truth is that of anything in life, this is the one thing I’ve been most afraid of – since childhood. I can literally remember being a very small girl and telling my mom I would never get married and never have babies. There wasn’t one time that I played with my dolls as if they were children – no, these toys were my friends, my students, my peers. Anything but my children. Never once did I envision changing diapers and giving a baby a bottle as something that should be dreamed about and fawned over.

But here I am – being scared, and being honest about it. I didn’t receive the secret rule book that other women get when they find out they’re going to be a mother. Perhaps that means the rules don’t apply to me, but more likely I will only keep getting incredulous looks when I speak openly and honestly about my fears and anxieties.

You know what, though? I am actually getting excited. It may be taking me longer than most, but I know that this can only be a good thing. God’s in it, and will see me through – even if that means I walk with my eyes closed tight while letting him lead the way! I can’t imagine a better way to do it.

Thoughts on Iron, and a Paleo Chili Recipe

I’m not sure if I just need a crazy amount of Iron, but I have been loving red meat lately. Not that I didn’t used to – no, I’ve always adored a good steak. But I’ve haven’t really wanted any other kind of meat for the last few weeks. Chicken – eh. Salmon – not so much. Chili – YES PLEASE!

Speaking of red meat, Applegate makes Organic, grassfed beef Hot Dogs that have been the highlight of my lunches. Of course, THEY say (whoever that higher power is), to cook lunchmeats until steaming. So, I’ve been frying up cut pieces of the Applegate hot dogs and putting them in salads. We’ve had Chili Dogs twice for dinner. What can I say…I love beef!

The Chili was quite a feat for me, actually. It was a new recipe, using Beef Liver mixed in with the ground beef. It turned out fantastically! I was slightly skeptical if I would like the taste, but was determined to eat Liver because of the health benefits (not to mention that the B Vitamins in Liver is supposedly wondrous for Migraines).

I found the recipe over at WildnessandWonder.com – the main thing I did differently was to add a bit of Newman’s organic marinara in order to make a bigger batch, and fiddled around with the ratios. Oh, and I didn’t use any fresh herbs.

Paleo Liver Chili

  • 1-2 lbs. Grassfed Ground Beef
  • .5 – 1 lb. Grassfed Beef Liver (If not a fan of liver, use less)
  • 1 Large Yellow Onion, chopped
  • 5 Cloves Minced Garlic
  • 2 Stalks Celery, chopped
  • 2 Bell Peppers, chopped (the color you prefer)
  • 2-3 Jalapeño Peppers, chopped finely
  • 2 Cans Diced Tomatoes
  • Tomato Paste (I used Trader Joe’s paste in a tube, but a small can will do)
  • 1/2 Can Newman’s Organic Marinara of Choice (I used Sockarooni)
  • 2 Tbsp. Coconut Aminos
  • Cumin to your Taste (I love Cumin)
  • Chili Powder to your Taste (also love)
  • 1 Tbsp. Cinnamon
  • Oregano
  • 4 bay leaves (if you have any)
  • Cayenne//Hot Sauce (if you like things picante)
  • Coconut Oil

Brown the ground beef, adding a spoonful or two of coconut oil if needed (if your beef is lean). While the ground beef is browning, run your beef liver in a food processor. This is the trick to blending the liver in seamlessly, so if you want it incognito, whirl it into a pudding consistency.  Add the liver to the browning ground beef, putting in spices as desired. If it’s a liver slurry, it’ll just cook right in and be indistinguishable. While your meat is cooking, heat a few more tablespoons of coconut oil to medium heat in another pan and add the onion, peppers, and celery, and let these veggies cook until the onion starts to become slightly translucent. Add the garlic and sauté until all the vegetables are tender but not mushy.

In a big pot, add all the tomato products, cooking on low heat. Add the cumin, cinnamon, and chili powder, as well as a few tablespoons of chopped oregano if using.

Add the meat as it browns to the big pot (it took me numerous rounds with the pan in order to brown everything). Add bay leaves if using, and a tablespoon or so of coconut aminos and tomato paste to the large pot, as well. Stir thoroughly, bring to a simmer, cover and let cook on low heat for 30 minutes. Taste the chili and add aminos, salt, pepper, and spice (cayenne etc.) of your choice as desired. I often find myself adding lots of additional cumin and chili powder at this point.

The recipe is really going to be customized to fit what you like, but I guarantee you won’t taste the Liver, and you’ll get all those delightful B Vitamins!

Doc Visit – 9.5 Weeks

Yesterday was my first visit to see the doctor while actually KNOWING that I’m pregnant. Even though I didn’t get to see the OB, I was ushered into a room by a very lovely nurse who answered any questions I had – and asked quite a few of her own. My Mother-in-Law accompanied me, since my own mother couldn’t get off work and my husband was coaching a state championship tennis tournament his team had elevated to.

The visit was very routine. Nothing out of the ordinary went on, and they were not able at this stage in my pregnancy to check for a heartbeat (that will be on the next visit in two weeks!). Mainly she just made sure to give me a list of food recommendations and a FAQ sheet, followed by the normal questions. What’s your Family history of this and that? Who’s your emergency contacts? Etc Etc.

Because of the OBGYN that I go to, I actually have the choice of two hospitals when it comes time for delivery. She gave me a pamphlet on those, as well, which I went over with Jeremy last night. It wasn’t a hard decision for us! Nothing really has been at this point…guess we’ll see if that continues when the name games begin.

The one thing that confused me the most was the booklet of information she gave me regarding Screening for Birth Defects. What a huge, life-altering decision to have to make! Obviously there are pros and cons to doing it or passing on it. Do we risk potentially knowing something devastating months in advance? Or do we not screen, potentially setting ourselves up for an enormous heartache on delivery day? It’s something that can’t be decided at this moment – we have two weeks to figure it all out.

If you’re reading this and have gone through that experience, I would love to know your thoughts on this type of screening!

A Primal Pregnancy

I’ve been gluten free for going on a year now. Having had issues with my stomach for as far back as I could remember (and not getting much information from doctors other than IBS and prescription drugs) I finally went to a more Homeopathic doctor who tested me for allergies. I went on a 3 month elimination diet and discovered that I could tolerate most things moderately well – with the exception of gluten.

But it isn’t just gluten. While I may not be allergic to other grains, I feel so much better when I don’t eat them. I found out about Paleo and the Primal Blueprint mainly because I love to bake, but don’t like cooking with flour, sugar…you know, the normal baking ingredients. Once I tried out some of the delicious recipes these diets offered, I began looking deeper into the lifestyle itself – because that’s what it is, a lifestyle. Paleo/Primal isn’t a way to lose weight (although many people will certainly do so), it’s a way of living.

Over at my other blog, Taste of Wonderland, I’ve been discussing the differences in the eating styles I’ve tried over the years – primarily The Maker’s Diet, Paleo, and Primal. The latter two focus primarily on eating the way our paleolithic ancestors ate – Veggies, Meat, Fruit. Sounds pretty healthy, right?

I thought so, and have decided to do this 100% throughout my pregnancy. The baby will get every single vitamin it needs – and probably a whole lot more – simply because I’ll be focusing on Whole Foods. I most likely also won’t blow up like a balloon, because I won’t be eating tons of Carbs.

I chose Primal over Paleo primarily for dairy. Primal allows for raw, unpasteurized milk and cheese, which I can obtain through a local farmer on a weekly basis. I don’t eat dairy every day, but it’s nice to be able to incorporate it into recipes, or drink a glass of cream-quality raw milk a few days a week! The Weston A. Price Foundation recommends raw milk daily for a pregnant woman. I am following their dietary guidelines with the exception of grains – I’m certainly not going to follow the USDA food recommendations!

WAPF Daily Guidelines include:

  • Raw Milk
  • Butter from pasture-fed cows
  • Eggs from pasture-raised chickens
  • Additional egg yolks for the Choline they provide
  • Beef or Lamb consumed with the Fat
  • Oily Fish or Lard for Vitamin D
  • Coconut Oil
  • Lacto-Fermented Condiments and Veggies
  • Bone Broth used in Soups, Stews and Sauces
  • Fresh Vegetables and Fruits
  • Liver once or twice per week for Vitamin A
  • Fresh Seafood weekly, particularly Salmon, Shellfish, and Fish Eggs

Over at The Primal Parent, Peggy has taught me a lot about what it means to be Primal during pregnancy. While she is more regimented and minimalistic than I could ever be, one particular blog has been a huge eye-opener for me – Paleo from Pregnancy. Not only was she perhaps the most adorable pregnancy person that ever was, but she really knows her stuff. She backs up her claims with research and sound data that would make the toughest Primal critic take a second glance.

With all that said, I’ve listed the core foods that I’ll be enjoying these next 7 months (and of course after the baby arrives). This comes directly from Mark Sisson’s The Primal Blueprint, the go-to guide for all things Primal.

Beverages – Water, Unsweetened Teas (can use a small amount of Stevia).

Coconut Products – Butter, Flakes, Flour, Milk, and Oil offer healthful medium-chain fats; great sub for dairy, trans fats, and wheat flour.

Coffee – Enjoy in moderation (cream and minimal sweetener ok)

Dairy – Raw, fermented, high-fat and organic products are preferred (Cheese, Cottage Cheese, Cream Cheese, Kefir, Whole Milk, Yogurt) in moderation.

Eggs – Local, pasture-raised or certified organic for high omega-3 content.

Fats and Oils – Coconut, Dark-Roasted Sesame, First press or Extra-Virgin Olive, Palm, and High Omega-3 oils. Animal fats (Chicken fat, Lard, Tallow), Butter and Coconut Oil are best for cooking.

Fish – Wild-caught. Small, oily, cold water fish best (Anchovies, Herring, Mackerel, Salmon, Sardines).

Fruit – Locally-grown or wild, organic, in-season preferred. Berries are premier choice. For soft-skinned fruits, go strictly organic. Moderate intake with higher glycemic/lower antioxidant values, and dried fruit.

Herbs and Spices – Organic preferred. No preservatives.

Indulgences – Dark Chocolate (75%+ cocoa content), and Red Wine are best choices. Be sensible and moderate.

Macadamia Nuts – Great Omega6/Omega3 ratio

Meat and Fowl – Local, pasture-raised, or USDA-certified Organic critical. If you must eat conventional meat, choose the leanest cuts and trim excess fat to minimize toxin exposure.

Other nuts, Seeds and their derivative Butters – Cold-processed, organic if available.

Snacks – Berries, Canned Tuna or Sardines, Celery with Cream Cheese or Nut Butter, Cottage Cheese with Nut or Fruit topping, Hard-Boiled Eggs, Jerky, Nuts, Olives, Seeds, Trail Mix and other high-fat and/or high-protein, low-carb primal foods.

Supplemental Carbs – Those without excess body fat, not wishing to lose additional weight, can enjoy Sweet Potatoes and Yams in moderation. Occasionally Quinoa and Wild Rice.

Vegetables – Locally grown, organic, in-season preferred. Go strictly organic for large surface area (leafy greens) and soft, edible skins. Wash all thoroughly.

I haven’t had any cravings for sugar since going on this diet, and have been full and satisfied much of the day. Shopping trips to the grocery store have certainly been different, but contrary to popular argument, eating this way (Organic meats, veggies, and fruit) has not been more expensive! Simply by steering clear of the middle aisles that contain boxed and bagged foods, I have significantly cut down on other expenses, allowing me to purchase better quality ingredients for the food I am now eating.

I’ll be posting my favorite Pregnancy recipes as the weeks go by!

First Time Shopping for Baby

Late last week my mom-in-law took me out to lunch, followed by a bit of shopping. This shopping, of course, included a trip to Nashville’s go-to baby boutique.

The Plaid Rabbit is full of everything little, from tiny clothing to beds and gliders. What I loved about the gliders was that they didn’t look like those found in most church nurseries. These actually looked like comfortable chairs, and were available in just about every fabric imaginable. How much fun I’m going to have deciding which to pick!

Apart from the gliders were the baby beds. They had both wood and iron to pick from – only I couldn’t pick! Which is better for the baby? Both had gorgeous options, but I wasn’t sure if teething would be good on metal surfaces. Also, I want to have the greenest products I can get for this little person, and nothing in the store was very eco-friendly. Certainly the mattress will need to be certified green, and the options Plaid Rabbit had left much to be desired in that part.

Even though the store was fun to take a trip into, I think I’m just more of an online shopping kind of girl. I found the most beautiful bed at Restoration Hardware Baby! Honestly, how much more perfect can you get? I’ll take one of everything in this photo, please!

So now it’s just a matter of deciding exactly what I want the nursery to be. I know I want it unique, but also liveable. I think this crib is the first step…and maybe those shelves and baskets, as well!

So Many Questions – Working Out in the First Trimester

Considering I didn’t know I was pregnant until 7 weeks, I have to say that my routine, workout and otherwise, never changed. Because of that, I heeded all the words I’ve heard and read, and kept it up.

The Mayo Clinic advises, ” If you exercised before pregnancy, you can probably continue to work out at the same level while you’re pregnant — as long as you’re feeling comfortable and your health care provider says it’s OK.”

WhatToExpect.com (as much as I loathe the book) recommends, “at 8 weeks pregnant, keep in mind that soon you’ll have less oxygen available for exercise, so stop when you become fatigued, and don’t get overheated.”

Ok, so with that knowledge, I feel confident that I can take on the world – as long as I can continue to carry on a normal conversation while doing it. But there are certain things that no one seems to want to explain. It’s as if all of the “authority figures” in the prenatal world assume that I only lifted 3-5 pound weights for everything, and that I will only now be beginning to think about doing yoga. But this isn’t the case. What about ab workouts? What about squats involving 15 pound dumbbells, what about leg presses? And what about advanced yoga that focuses on more than just breathing and relaxation?

No one is giving me much information, and of the select group of people I’ve dropped the pregnancy news on, those people didn’t really workout while pregnant. Who’s a girl to turn to for advice?

I’ll have to keep searching to find out.

A Big Pain the the Neck – Migraines

Before I got pregnant, but thought perhaps I was, I got a migraine. I had been told by my doctor that during pregnancy I would not be able to take my trusty Imitrex, so thus the searing pain lasted 36 hours and eventually I had to be whisked off to the emergency room.

Since college I have been getting migraines more and more frequently. I started taking Imitrex 3 or 4 years ago, after another ER visit. I would take half a pill when I felt one coming on, and that would be that (although lately it’s been to the tune of twice a week).

Now that I am – in fact – knocked up, I got another migraine. Actually, this particular migraine began the day I found out. Stress perhaps? Needless to say that once again, I did not take the Imitrex. Yes, I took the muscle relaxers that the Gyno prescribed, along with some Tylenol and other various natural remedies. Alas, nothing seemed to help. 48 hours later, the pain finally abated and I emerged from the dark room – luckily without having to head to the hospital this time around.

Natural Remedies to Migraines

  • Aromatherapy – Peppermint, sandalwood, basil, lavender, eucalyptus, and rosemary essential oils. Massage into the head or put on a warm wet cloth and apply to head
  • Hot and Cold Therapy – Alternate Ice and Heat while laying down, or alternate hot and cold water while in the shower
  • Celery Juice – Rich in coumarins, substances that have a soothing effect on the vascular system of the brain. Eight ounces of celery juice works best as a preventative. Drink it straight or mixed with other uices. It can also soothe a migraine, but is generally slow to do so.
  • Ginger Juice – Can stop a migraine right in its tracks. Try juicing fresh ginger root , apples, and carrots together. Make sure the ginger is as strong as the palate can handle. This remedy is best when used within the first few minutes of the onset of a migraine. (combining celery and ginger juice together could be a pretty potent remedy)
  • B Vitamins – Promotes Nerve Support. This can be found in a whole foods vitamin, as well as in mass quantities in foods such as Liver.
  • Chiropractic and Acupuncture – When the neck is out of alignment, headaches are common.

This is the Exact Location of My Migraines

Luckily from what I’ve read, pregnancy will ease many migraine symptoms due to the fluctuation in hormones. Of course they say there are food triggers that can cause migraines as well, such as Chocolate, Caffeine, MSG, artificial sugars, and some soft cheeses.  But I hadn’t had any of those when this beast struck.

Contrary to what my Gynecologist said, The Emergency room doctors (as well as a Psychiatrist family friend) let me know that Imitrex and certain other migraine medications were fine to take while pregnant. The Psych even went so far as to say that she wouldn’t hesitate to prescribe it to her own pregnant daughter. Both let me know that because of lack of evidence, most Migraine meds are classified as C, which means that its safe, but there’s not really any studies to prove that.

We’ll see what I wind up doing. I don’t want to compromise the health of my baby. But at the same time, stress and pain are not good experiences for the child, either!

 

The Complete Organic Pregnancy – a Review

I actually read this book quite some time ago – when I had first took the risk of getting off birth control. Like a good scholar, I recently signed onto Amazon and chose a few pregnancy books to get myself started, having zero clue about anything baby. Have I mentioned that I’ve never even been around children? Nope – I’m completely new at this and need every ounce of advice I can get!

The first book that was delivered to my doorstop was Deidre Dolan and Alexandra Zissu’s The Complete Organic Pregnancy. So that’s where I started. I’m very glad that I began my quest with this book, as it offered so much information that’s only been lightly touched on in books I’ve read since then. Alexandra is also the author of a very informative blog, and I quickly became a subscriber so that I could get information on a regular basis.

The book is organized into three sections which cover pre-conception, pregnancy, and living with your baby. Each section discusses what you need, and what you need to get away from during that particular stage. I found this really helpful, because even if you begin this book and are already pregnant, the authors have given helpful tips on how to choose and integrate the right diet, fitness program, and cleaning products – both for you and your baby.

I loved that they gave you REASONS for doing all the things they suggest, and that they backed it up with sound medical and environmental evidence. So many guides only give the author’s opinion, but this book included things like the importance of water purity, and where to locate your town’s water test levels online.

I got so many ideas  – from the best foods to eat, the type of paint to use when decorating, the cleaning products that I need to use (and the many, many, many that need to be thrown out of my home), and the beauty products I need to amend or say goodbye to for good. It was really eye opening for me, and I’m sure my husband can quote the book because of my nightly recitations to him! He’s a full convert of the organic lifestyle now, and is currently teaching his ecology student’s the Michael Pollan way of life!

Did it inspire fear within me? Well, sure. But learning the truth about something that I had been in the dark about will do that to me! What I loved was that for every piece of advice that was unattainable (such as purchasing an entirely new organic mattress, sofa, and chairs), there was a more realistic, down to earth option (like putting an organic mattress pad on the bed, and checking the furniture for tears so that the chemically-ridden stuffing doesn’t poke out).

How wonderful and refreshing not to be chastised for not being able to afford to live life 100% organically! I would love to make that a reality at some point, but right now I think I’ll focus on the attainable, such as swapping my cleaning products and trashing my plastic shower curtain liner. They rightly say throughout the book that this isn’t an all or nothing kind of lifestyle. Any small change is for the better, and I am personally on an increasingly natural path – even if it’s slow progress at times, it’s progress nonetheless!

Some portions may be a tad bit too much information for some – the list of chemicals and their effects is extensive, and gets repeated often when mentioning different types of household products. But I feel it’s there for reference in the future, when I’m contemplating a purchase and want to know what that 5 syllable ingredient might do to my baby!

Get the book, be informed, and if some parts are too much to take in, bookmark it for a later date! I have no doubts that the information will not only come in handy, but will make for a happy baby, a healthier family, and a cleaner environment.

Sunday Surf with Authentic Parenting and Hobo Mama

Then Comes Baby

I’m pregnant.

There – I typed it out. Bold and plain, in big letters so that the truth can be stated in writing. I didn’t even know it was possible – I certainly didn’t expect it.

One trip to the doctor, and she told me that it might be very difficult for me to ever have children. Then I received a call a few days later. My bloodwork had come back and they wanted me to return as soon as possible for more testing and an ultrasound – they were afraid I might have a tumor or some other serious problem.

On my next visit, the ultrasound proved it was something else entirely. “You’re pregnant,” the technician calmly said. “7 weeks and 4 days along.” I burst into tears.

Were those tears made of shock, confusion, or panic? Who can say at this point. Since then the news has settled into my system and reality has hit home. I am going to have a baby. A Christmas baby, if the doctors are to be believed. I’m hopeful the child will show up a little earlier and save itself birthday parties filled with holiday decor.

Curiouser and Curiouser – we’ll see what the next few days bring. I certainly can’t imagine the coming months at this point.

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